How self-efficacy can help!

When challenged with dealing with chronic illness or trying to adhere to a weight loss program, a wellness program or a diabetes management regimen, researchers have found that people who have a sense of “self-efficacy” may be more successful in adhering to their plan.
Even if other psychosocial supports - such as family or support group, are not all favorable, a strong sense of self-efficacy can offset these difficulties.

The concept of self-efficacy was proposed by Bandura (1977) and was developed within the framework of what is called “social learning theory.” The self-efficacy model defines self-efficacy as the individual’s perception of his or her ability to carry out a given behavior or group of behaviors.  This sense of self efficacy has an effect on the person’s emotions (feelings), cognitions (thoughts), and motivation in difficult or threatening situations such as facing life-long self management of illness or health maintenance.   In other words, if a person faced with the demands of self-management gains a sense of self-efficacy, then mood, and  thoughts and his/her motivation may be enhanced and in turn, contribute to success in self-care of one’s health.

Three Things You Can Do Today to Feel Better

1. Think Positive:  Make an effort to change your negative self talk into positive self talk.  For many people, this takes practice, especially if your thinking ‘style’ tends toward the negative.

2. Rest and relax:  Take a break—make a point to relax for 30 minutes each day.  If you’re not sure how to relax, try different things.  Listen to music, contemplate nature, read, meditate, nap, do whatever you enjoy that helps you feel calm.

3. Recreation and play:  Get some exercise! Find ways to be playful and develop a sense of humor Turn your exercise routine into playtime – find an activity you enjoy!

Control your Anger - Control your Stress!

There are actually healthy and unhealthy ways to control anger in your everyday dealings, whether with coworkers, family, friends or the grocery store clerk! Chronic, poorly managed anger may add to your stress levels by increasing the cortisol in your system, which in turn contributes to more inflammation and poorer health.

What are some unhealthy and healthy responses when you get angry? 
Check out these lists and tips.

Unhealthy Anger Responses

• You deny your feelings.  Instead, you lash out and blame others.
• You are defensive and argue with those who try to help.
• You are disrespectful of the other person (name calling, insulting the person instead of the situation).
• You have physiological sensations – increased heart rate, pounding heart, your face heats up, etc.
• You  act aggressive, hit or strike or throw things.
• You give up and see yourself as a helpless victim.
• Your anger becomes addictive – you easily anger at many different situations and circumstances.

Healthier Responses to Anger

• You admit your denial - You work at expressing your thoughts and feelings (using “I” not “You”) without denial and blame.
• You try to understand the other person’s viewpoint
• You have an attitude of respect even when you feel angry
• You do something constructive and find ways to keep your anger under control
• You are open to learning new things
• You examine your own behavior.
• Your commitment to others grows stronger
• You eventually let go of the anger and feel fine

Sometimes controlling your anger takes real effort and practice

Here are 5 tips for controlling your anger:

• Talk slowly
• Wait - “Take 10” - count to 10, 20 or 30, take deep breaths and think before your react.
• Take a walk; go for a run; workout, instead of reacting poorly to a situation.
• Find humor in the situation.
• Respond with assertiveness; respond don’t reac.

Work on your Assertiveness

When you communicate in an assertive manner, your assertiveness is actually incompatible with unhealthy anger (and the accompanying anxiety).

           

Tips on Assertiveness; use when communicating your anger!

• Use steady eye-to-eye contact but not staring or glaring.
• Stand or sit tall with good postur.
• Maintain a firm steady tone without yelling or drop in tone.
• Use “I” statements – I feel, I need, I would appreciate.
• Use short sentences.
• Use pauses for feedback.

Related articles

• Study Highlights How Moms' Depression, Anger Stresses Kids (nlm.nih.gov)

Taking the Heat!

Survival in the desert is a constant challenge for the variety of animals and plants that live there; to flourish in the desert requires the organism to withstand drought, extreme heat, and seasonal floods.  In the desert, for several months of the year, the temperatures may be exceedingly hot, exceeding what is called the range of thermoneutrality in which the animal can survive.   This heat, combined with the scarcity of life-sustaining water, makes for an extremely tenuous survival.  And yet, through adaptation to their environment, and the ability to avoid excess heat, flora and fauna are able to survive – and even flourish in this harsh environment.

What is your range of psychological thermoneutrality?  What are some of the environmental conditions (i.e., relationships, community, school, finances, commute) in your life and experience that have been the most difficult to overcome? When things heat up, do you struggle and fail - or adapt, cope and flourish? What adaptations have you made in the past to your circumstances that have helped you to not only survive but to flourish? Take some time and consider a stressful time, event or circumstance you have experienced that has challenged you.  What did you do to cope?  What did you learn? Would you do things differently now?  Contemplate your successful “adaptations” and remember them when your environment heats up.

Keeping FIT is NOT always EASY! (Part 2)

Keeping fit and healthy–is NOT always EASY!  If you set out to make some positive changes to your health, it’s likely you will find your intent is stronger than your willpower. If you’re stuck – try this.   Instead of feeling discouraged and giving up completely, one of the things you CAN do is keep a journal or diary or notes – whatever you want to call it - of your food intake each day.  What would this look like?  You could create your own template or download an APP. 

Your notes or diary should include when you eat.  Keep track of every time you eat something, even if it’s a nibble.  Don’t be shy about listing everything. No one else will see your notes. Note the exact time. 

Keep track of everything you eat.  Write down even the 1/3rd cookie you nibbled on before breakfast.  Write down the 3 peanut butter chocolate candies you ate from the office lobby and the 2 glasses of wine before dinner.

Keep track of how much you eat. If it’s a small serving – describe it in your notes. If it’s two servings, describe.  Include calorie totals next to each food.  Use a calorie tracker for this. You can find trackers easily online.  Round up to the highest total; we know that the far majority of people underestimate serving size and caloric intake.  

Get in the habit of doing this everyday, every week.   Did you know that for some people, having a concrete idea of what, when and how much they eat actually helps them cut down on their overall caloric intake?  You will begin to see patterns in your eating that you may not have truly known before.  Try it – you may find the effort worth it.